Do you ride the challenges of life? There is no such thing as a life without challenges. Women over 45 are called the sandwich generation as we juggle children, ageing parents, careers and ‘the stuff of life.’ Many of us face those challenges single-handed. This is about finding the strength and support to ride the waves.


woman grief

Top tips for dealing with grief

There is no escaping it. Every person in the world has to face death at some point. We fear it, avoid it, wrap it up in euphemisms which make the concept easy to say. Popping our clogs, passing over, departing, kicking the bucket, saying goodbye, falling asleep, going to God, going to heaven – in fact anything other than the word dead

Ten top tips for working the room at networking events

Networking and attending networking events is a big part of many careers. But is it fun?

Can you make a career move after 45? Top tips for facing psychometric assessment

Psychologists like me are guilty of changing selection processes from an interview (which is daunting enough) to a full assessment of a candidate’s ability, experience and even their personality.

Top tips for staying safe on public transport

If you are a female on public transport, statistics tell us you are more vulnerable than men to unwanted attention. The author, being a devotee of trains, planes and buses in preference to cars has a long list of ‘events’

The Dementia Diaries.
The day you say goodbye

This has been the hardest article to write in this series, but maybe the most important. Because those of us who have to care for a dementia patient dread and yet often pray for this day. Few, if any of us, want our parents or loved ones to die. But the torment of watching them fade away to nothing is a pain from which we want relief. 

Top Tips for Making New Year Resolutions Stick

Here we are again. It’s a New Year, the tabloids are packed with predictions for the year – and all of them gloomy. Just a peak into the ‘weird’ sections tells us that Planet X is going to destroy the Earth, a tsunami will wipe out New York, more earthquakes are on the way, Italy will destabilise and cause another EU crisis – oh, and the whole of the USA will become ungovernable under President Trump while Nostradamus predictions for 2017 are reported as chilling – including the dead rising from graves!

The Dementia Diaries
Top Tips for Dealing with a Care Home

In our article 'Top Tips for Choosing a Residential Home' we covered the things to look for in a good care home. However, the work does not stop there. You need to work with the care home to ensure your parent settles in and then retain a level of monitoring to ensure they continue to have the level of care and dignity all old people deserve.

Christmas Shopping New York Style

Well you cannot say it’s dull! The New Yorkers sure know how to do Christmas. Sassista One decided to venture out into the chilly streets of Manhattan to see what it’s really like. Don’t expect a a quiet stroll around the shops – it is free-fall chaos.

Can You Make a Career Move After 45?

Top tips for panel interview success

In our first article we looked at the psychology of going for a new job and all the fears that process raises. Today, we move on to how to be successful in a modern day selection process.

Staple diet of all selectors is the interview. In our first article we covered the basics of interview success. Today we move onto the next level - the panel interview.

The dementia diaries.
Top tips for choosing a residential home

We all dread the day – the day you have to admit to yourself and everybody that you cannot cope. Despite all those promises to yourself and to your parent that they would never go into a home, you have to face the reality that they are safer and would be better cared for by the professionals.

Can you make a career move after 45?

Top tips for getting a new job after 45

Last month we featured Pat Duckworth’s new book, ‘Hot Women Rock – How to Discover your Midlife Entrepreneurial Mojo.’ Pat is a passionate believer in following your dreams and finding your path in life in later years. If you have a dream, we say ‘go for it.’

The dementia diaries.
When your parent suddenly hates you

How to deal with aggression and conflict with the elderly.

We do not talk about it. We cover it up. We feel ashamed that our once loving parent, (who everybody describes as ‘sweet’ or ‘lovely’, or makes those cooing noises about how sad it is that they are getting frail), is, behind closed doors, a spiteful old person who makes you want to cry.

The Dementia Diaries. Communicating with parents with dementia

OK – let’s get the nasty bit over first. It is frustrating, annoying, worrying, exasperating, frightening, and can be extremely irritating when you are talking with your dementia-affected parent or relative. The constant repetition is one thing, but worse is the confusion and muddle you find yourself ploughing through every day.

The dementia diaries. Spotting the early signs.

Call me Sassista Three. I am not alone – far from it – but I feel it. I live in the twilight world of my mother’s final phase of dementia. Every morning, I wake and wonder if this will be her final day in a life which is now a mere confused existence.

Resolutions for a Sassy Summer

New Year’s resolutions are standard practice. But do they work? For most of us - no – and there are good reasons why…

  1. Most resolutions are about stopping something such as smoking, drinking, eating chocolate. So you are starting a year with a punishment. It is no surprise that most resolutions fail within a month.

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