I am many things – a doctor of psychology, occupational psychologist, trained coach, consultant, mediator, NLP practitioner, development consultant, a writer, a partner, step-mother by deed rather than marriage documents, small-time property developer, sailor and boat lover. I try to be sassy, clever and funny but often end up grumpy and snarly when I see women held back – either by themselves or by ‘experts’. I am 54. I would like to be a size 12 and I dye my hair. I also try to be a friend, a thinker, an advisor. My best days are when someone says I have made a difference to their confidence or their career and helped them make a positive shift in their mind, body or soul. But truth to tell, I am just like you – a woman who fights to keep her Sassy side live.

This blog will not tell you my daily coming and going (far too dull) or the clothes that I wear (far too conservative until I retire). It will be a weekly observation on what has made my Sassy side scream, cheer, laugh, think or shout.

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A mother’s gift          

Mother’s day. It is bitter sweet. I love to hear how Annie (she of Annie Reviews who, if you read the last blog, you will know loves to feed ducks and give them weird names) is buoyed up by flowers and hugs from her daughter. Then I remember that my Mum has gone. There is no-one to hand a bunch of flowers and just say thank you.

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Spring at last! Top tips for getting a spring back into your step.

At last it is here – that time of year when you wake up in the light again and birds are still twittering – in a normal twittering kind of way rather than incessant broadcasting of irrelevant comment and self-obsession. Trees are budding, crocuses peeping, the sky is beginning to shift from grey to blue.

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Courage in everyday women

Two weeks ago I wrote about my dear friend Don who had taught me so much through his gentlemanly kindness and generous spirit. There is no doubting that the past weeks have had a daily gap - no more chats over the fence, advice on the budding flowers, review of Welsh rugby and how we were truly robbed by a bad call (yes – officially pronounced!) on a definite try. His sister and I speak daily – but the gap is ever there.

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Fallen Angels – when charity and wrong go hand in hand

For most people over 50 the name Oxfam has become the catch-all for charity giving. ‘Give it to Oxfam’ is the usual term just as ‘get out the hoover’ is the catch-all for cleaning and ‘pass the kleenex’ for tissues. To most of us Oxfam is the symbol of good, giving, generosity of spirit and that warm feeling of having done something for the less fortunate.

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When a good friend dies

I have been away a while. Life happens and the two inevitables of taxes and death catch up. Last spring it was my mother. This year it was my old friend Don – a friend and neighbour who has made life good for over fifteen years.

Blue Monday


Blue Monday and dark days. Ten top tips for getting more cheerful.

Well hopefully you have survived Blue Monday – the most miserable day of the year. Apparently it was identified by Cliff Arnol at Cardiff University in 2005 and even had a formula to explain why we find the day so very bad.

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